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Self Love | How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

September 11, 2016

 

Heyya! I hope your all doing good and for those of you who are at school, how was your first week? I was only at school for 3  days to begin with and the work has already just hit me like *pow*, but we’ve still got to get through a whole year! Today I wanted to do one last advice post before I break into all of my ‘Autumnal//Fall’ related posts since the last one went down so well.

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Self-confidence can be one of those things that people may have lots of or be lacking. With social media becoming an increasingly large influential source of information, it can often lead us to idealistic images, show us people lives and things that they may have. I feel as though it is only natural for us to look at someone and admire them and what they’ve accomplished etc. but it’s when we start bringing ourselves down by using someone else as a comparison to us is when it may become a small problem. When we focus on only the positives of another and only the negatives of ourselves, we could be bringing down our own self-esteem and confidence levels. I know that I’m only a young teen, but I hope that the advice that I write below does manage to help some of you out if you need it or anyone else that you know.

  1. As opposed to comparing a quality that you consider admirable of another to yourself, strive and aim to obtain that quality yourself. So instead of letting it put you down, let it motivate you.
  2. Try to begin focusing more on the positive assets of yourself and embrace them. Your mind may become accustomed to thinking on the bright side of things, meaning you may be less likely to compare yourself to another if you are focused on the good things currently happening in your life.
  3. Replace the comparative thoughts with ones that relate to the positives or something that you are proud of.
  4. Know that the person that you admire has flaws too. You may subconsciously only choose to admire the things that most appeal to you and overlook the aspects that don’t necessarily appeal to you. By remembering that the one you idolize is not completely perfect, may make you realize that you are more similar than you think, each having great assets and small flaws.
  5. Judge yourself by your own standards. Once you start to set goals and limits that are specifically for you and not ones that are in competition to others, you should be able to start living by your own standards and following your own expectations of yourself rather than those of others.
  6. Search for inspiration rather than someone to compare yourself to. When finding a quality or something that you like, take it as an inspiration instead of another opportunity to compare yourself.
  7. Realize that the comparisons are unfair, they compare the best elements of one person, to what you may consider the less desirable assets of yourself.
  8. Do what is right for you personally. What may be right or at a convenience for one, may be not be at a convenience or the right thing for you, so do what you feel is right for you and not what may be right for someone else.
  9. Be reasonable with the expectations for yourself, know your strengths and play them to an advantage that works well. If you have expectations of yourself, be sure to have them be reasonable and somewhat realistic.
  10. YOU ARE UNIQUE! No one else is like you or is the same as you, embrace your unique features instead of comparing them to someone else’s.

 

So that’s all I’ve got for ya this week. I hope that this was somewhat helpful to you all out there and that you all feel confident and happy in your own skin because you’re all fabulous! Drop me comment letting me know what you are most excited for this Autumn and I shall be back with you next week!

 

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P.S: As you may or may not know I wanted to change out the ‘Fashion’ category here on my blog and as by popular demand on over my Twitter poll, it will now be replaced with ‘Travel’! Keep your eyes peeled for some new posts coming up soon! Byesies! Xxxx

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41 comments

Katie. lacoconoire (@lacoconoire) September 5, 2017 - 8:23 AM

GIRL i can’t believe you’re 14!! your blog is so beautiful and your content is sooooo good, couldn’t believe it when i read your bio!! killin it, little lady! ♥♥

one quote i love is “every second spent comparing yourself is a second that could be spent upping your game”, which is really true. comparison is the thief of joy, afterall!

beautiful, motivating post olivia!

katie. xx lacoconoire.com

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Jade September 28, 2016 - 8:34 PM

Such a great post. Really enjoyed reading!

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Olivia Alesha September 28, 2016 - 9:13 PM

I’m so happy that you enjoyed reading!
-Olivia xxx

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Federica September 16, 2016 - 3:06 PM

What a lovely post, these words are so true! I’ve just found your blog and I’m so happy to be here, it’s a big inspiration for my new little blog. I will be glad to follow you and read your next post 🙂

Have a nice day and love from Italy!

Federica | http://www.federicamutti.com

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Olivia Alesha September 17, 2016 - 12:27 PM

Thank you Federica! I cannot tell you how glad I am that you have found my blog and found it inspirational.
-Olivia Xxx

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Tasha September 15, 2016 - 6:14 PM

I’m pregnant at the moment so I’m constantly comparing myself to others. Even before I compared myself to others

Tasha x

http://itsatashathing.blogspot.com/2016/09/itsatashathing-zoella-apartment-trip_11.html

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Marta September 15, 2016 - 5:35 PM

I did this all the freaking time when I was younger! We have to understand that every single one of us is ONE OF A KIND and there is simply no point to compare each other xx Lovely post babe

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Olivia Alesha September 15, 2016 - 5:41 PM

Thank you for such a thoughtful comment Marta! We are all one of a kind and we all need to remember that.
-Olivia Xxx

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Charlotte September 15, 2016 - 5:28 PM

I really struggle and I’m always comparing myself with others, such a positive post!
I love it!
Charlotte xx
Theporcelaindollblog.blogspot.co.uk

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Olivia Alesha September 15, 2016 - 5:31 PM

Hopefully this post can help you out Charlotte, I’m so happy that you liked reading!
-Olivia Xxx

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Vanisha September 15, 2016 - 9:55 AM

Lovely post! Self love is so important, I recently got the hang of noticing my thoughts and changing, already feel so much lighter! x

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Olivia Alesha September 15, 2016 - 4:18 PM

It’s so great that you got that hang of noticing your thoughts and that you are feeling much, much better.
-Olivia Xxx

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Izzie September 14, 2016 - 9:30 PM

Really love this post! It is a really nice read. . Also let me know if you would be interest in a collab on a post as I am also a teenaged blogger!! xx
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Olivia Alesha September 15, 2016 - 4:15 PM

Thank you Izzie, I’m so happy that you liked it! I will just drop you a message on Twitter if that’s okay?
-Olivia Xxx

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Kimberley jessica September 14, 2016 - 9:22 PM

I loved this! I didn’t start loving myself until I got into a relationship with my boyfriend now who loves every part of me which I always hated

-www.kimberleyjessica.co.uk

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 9:25 PM

Thank you! I’m so glad that you’ve begun loving yourself and I hope that you continue to love yourself too. <3
-Olivia Xxx

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Samantha September 14, 2016 - 9:01 PM

Great post! I think this is really important because it feels like everyone is in competition now.

S .x http://ramblingsofayoungprgirl.blogspot.com/

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 9:05 PM

Thank you! I feel like we could all do with feeling more confident and comfortable in our own skin.
-Olivia Xxxx

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Francesca September 14, 2016 - 8:33 PM

Great blogpost with some amazing tips!

I’m really looking forward to cooler weather! ?✨☃

Lovely blogpost xxx
Francesca xxx

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:39 PM

Thank you so much. I’m really looking forward to the cooler weather too, bring on the Autumn! (Hehe!)
-Olivia Xxx

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Jessica Kennedy September 14, 2016 - 8:26 PM

this is so important! XX

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:38 PM

Thank you Jessica, I hope that you enjoyed your read.
-Olivia Xxx

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Steph hannam September 14, 2016 - 8:25 PM

I absolutely loved this blog post, I think it is so important that people don’t compare themselves to others all the time x

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:34 PM

Thank you! It really is important to not constantly compare ourselves all the time.
-Olivia Xxx

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Robyn September 14, 2016 - 8:23 PM

I adore this post! Self-confidence has always been a huge issue of mine and I’m forever comparing myself to others. I’m going to take your advice and try to follow these tips to learn to love myself a little more. Thank you!
https://midnightandlace.blogspot.co.uk/

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:32 PM

I so chuffed that this post came in handy for you Robyn and I hope that my advice helps you out!
-Olivia Xxx

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Becca September 14, 2016 - 8:18 PM

I love this post- especially the post about being unique! 8 constantly blog about stuff like this too so this was such an interesting read. Well done lovely x

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:21 PM

Thank you so much Becca! It means so much coming from someone like you who has such an amazing blog.
-Olivia Xxxx

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Larice September 14, 2016 - 8:13 PM

What a lovely post ! Amazing tips x Larice

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:19 PM

Aww thank you so much!
-Olivia Xxx

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Emma Kershaw September 14, 2016 - 8:13 PM

I love this! Such an inspiring post! x

Emma | earthtoemma.com

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:17 PM

Thank you so much Emma, I really happy that you liked it!
-Olivia Xxx

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Stephanie // StephieBeau September 14, 2016 - 8:12 PM

“Search for inspiration rather than someone to compare yourself to” I love this! Your tips are really helpful Olivia!

Stephanie // http://www.stephiebeau.com

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:17 PM

I so so glad that you found this helpful Stephanie!
-Olivia Xxx

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Em September 14, 2016 - 8:09 PM

Such a beautiful post! And so true! We all need to take a moment to love ourselves, we can easily forget. Definitely something to preach more! xo
Em // emilyybecca.wordpress.com

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Olivia Alesha September 14, 2016 - 8:15 PM

Thank you! We definitely need to take some time to appreciate ourselves sometimes.
-Olivia Xx

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Single Vegas Girl September 13, 2016 - 12:29 AM

I wish you luck with school! I know you’ll find a way to manage your time to keep on top of things. These were some great tips. (:

Single Vegas Girl
http://singlevegasgirl.blogspot.com

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Olivia Alesha September 13, 2016 - 5:17 PM

Thank you, I’m glad you liked the tips!
-Olivia Xxx

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Lydia Lou September 12, 2016 - 9:57 PM

Awwwww x

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Nadia September 11, 2016 - 9:27 PM

Lovely lovely post girl! Lots of amazing tips. I think we all need to work on self love a bit more 🙂

Nadia || http://psychologyfoodandfitness.blogspot.co.uk <3

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Olivia Alesha September 13, 2016 - 5:16 PM

Thank you! We can all do with a lil’ bit of self love.
-Olivia Xxx

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