Heyya! I hope your all doing good and for those of you who are at school, how was your first week? I was only at school for 3 days to begin with and the work has already just hit me like *pow*, but we’ve still got to get through a whole year! Today I wanted to do one last advice post before I break into all of my ‘Autumnal//Fall’ related posts since the last one went down so well.
Self-confidence can be one of those things that people may have lots of or be lacking. With social media becoming an increasingly large influential source of information, it can often lead us to idealistic images, show us people lives and things that they may have. I feel as though it is only natural for us to look at someone and admire them and what they’ve accomplished etc. but it’s when we start bringing ourselves down by using someone else as a comparison to us is when it may become a small problem. When we focus on only the positives of another and only the negatives of ourselves, we could be bringing down our own self-esteem and confidence levels. I know that I’m only a young teen, but I hope that the advice that I write below does manage to help some of you out if you need it or anyone else that you know.
- As opposed to comparing a quality that you consider admirable of another to yourself, strive and aim to obtain that quality yourself. So instead of letting it put you down, let it motivate you.
- Try to begin focusing more on the positive assets of yourself and embrace them. Your mind may become accustomed to thinking on the bright side of things, meaning you may be less likely to compare yourself to another if you are focused on the good things currently happening in your life.
- Replace the comparative thoughts with ones that relate to the positives or something that you are proud of.
- Know that the person that you admire has flaws too. You may subconsciously only choose to admire the things that most appeal to you and overlook the aspects that don’t necessarily appeal to you. By remembering that the one you idolize is not completely perfect, may make you realize that you are more similar than you think, each having great assets and small flaws.
- Judge yourself by your own standards. Once you start to set goals and limits that are specifically for you and not ones that are in competition to others, you should be able to start living by your own standards and following your own expectations of yourself rather than those of others.
- Search for inspiration rather than someone to compare yourself to. When finding a quality or something that you like, take it as an inspiration instead of another opportunity to compare yourself.
- Realize that the comparisons are unfair, they compare the best elements of one person, to what you may consider the less desirable assets of yourself.
- Do what is right for you personally. What may be right or at a convenience for one, may be not be at a convenience or the right thing for you, so do what you feel is right for you and not what may be right for someone else.
- Be reasonable with the expectations for yourself, know your strengths and play them to an advantage that works well. If you have expectations of yourself, be sure to have them be reasonable and somewhat realistic.
- YOU ARE UNIQUE! No one else is like you or is the same as you, embrace your unique features instead of comparing them to someone else’s.
So that’s all I’ve got for ya this week. I hope that this was somewhat helpful to you all out there and that you all feel confident and happy in your own skin because you’re all fabulous! Drop me comment letting me know what you are most excited for this Autumn and I shall be back with you next week!
P.S: As you may or may not know I wanted to change out the ‘Fashion’ category here on my blog and as by popular demand on over my Twitter poll, it will now be replaced with ‘Travel’! Keep your eyes peeled for some new posts coming up soon! Byesies! Xxxx